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Larry Urish's avatar

Whenever I'm in my ego (which seems to be most of the time), I tend to react, rather than look at a given situation / outcome / feeling from a more distant, dispassionate perspective. So what helps – something I forget to do all too often – is something I shared earlier today in another comment: "Breathe in ... breathe out. Breathe in ... breathe out." (And lather, rinse and repeat.)

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Andy Gibson's avatar

Yes! Breathing is great for taking a moment before reacting. Meditation has been helpful for building that space for me.

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Mournings & Musings's avatar

I love this. Something I’ve come to realize lately is that what causes my suffering is “resistance”. Not wanting to feel anxious, not wanting to feel sad, trying to make people or situations something they will never be. I’ve moved into a new phase of acceptance, and I truly feel so much lighter. You’ve motivated me to write a piece on this soon. Thank you!

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Andy Gibson's avatar

Yes, exactly! Resistance and attachment causes much of our suffering.

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